A couple of weeks back i was fortunate(uhm) to be invited to a hen night..which was to say the least, interesting and informative..if not a little shocking. One of the topics to come up was douching...as i said i never get why some topics are such taboo yet so crucial..you only have to provide a forum for such topics to realize that enough people are also experiencing the same things or wondering about the same thing/...or different stuff which you can learn from..while others just show you how diverse we are as human beings. I have informed the whole world how i hate working in nde4cember...its my first December working and to say ten truth i have been moaning about it non-stop...today was a Friday and December so you can guess my motivation level for work...subzero...i worked in the morning and in they afternoon decided to research some of the stuff that were being discussed at the hen party.
Below are questions and responses from some interactive website....some had me in stitches ..and for the first time i laughed till i shed tears...made my day...i also realized some people thinks its perfectly okay to shower once a week!!!!!!!!!
1.by seeekingginfo on March 22, 2009 at 3:18 PM
I'm 17, and engaged to be married in 2 years... my fiancee and I do have a sex life, and the last time we did it, he ripped something "up there", now it dangles... ick. I don't know what it is, and I can't seem to find anything on the web about it: it used to be a smallish fleshy "loop" (I used to get tampons stuck on it occasionally), but now it's just a... string-thing. Does this ring a bell to anyone? Does anyone know what it is?
Response:\by RandomRainbows on April 5, 2009 at 4:54 PM
its ur hymen...u have a septate hymen...google it.....it broke and now its still there xD o.o u need to get it cut off by a Gynaecologist or u could do it urself....but its better to go to a Gynaecologist ._.
2.by Vajayjayman on March 23, 2009 at 8:06 PM
Guys, I'm 17 going on 18. I just wanna know . . . . WHAT THE FUCK IS A CHERRY?!?!?!
RESPONSE:
+1 by jenero on April 20, 2009 at 12:33 AM
it's like a barrier. It gets broken the first time you have sex and then you're not a virgin anymore. Then there is a little bleeding. They call it a cherry because after it breaks, it bleeds.
0 by Rhyre on June 18, 2009 at 10:05 AM
Yeah, the 'barrier' is scientifically known as a 'hymen'. Losing your virginity is biologically signified by your hymen being broken. :]
3.by Herpesnator on June 8, 2009 at 6:43 PM
My vagina hurts , it leaks weird things
4.by NaGfH on June 21, 2009 at 2:40 AM
Um, I heard something unusual today and wanted to know if this is accurate or not: that its not uncommon for a woman to NOT HAVE a clitoris. It sounded ridiculous but I wanted to be sure.
THIS ONE KILLED ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111LIEK FOR THE FIRST TIME I LAUGHED TILL I CRIED...AND AM IN THE OFFICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
5. +1 by zoe001821 on July 4, 2009 at 1:02 AM
OK I NEED SERIOUS HELP HERE I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO IHATE THE WAY MY VAGINA LOOKS IT LOOKS WERID AND MINE HAS BIG LIPS AND I NEED TO KNOW HOW TO GET RID OF THEMM ANYWAY LIKE EXERCISE OR ANYTHING PLZ PPLZ HELP
Response::::::Vaginal lips vary a lot from one woman to the next in both size and color. The size and color may change a bit during puberty. Since you're 14, you're probably going through those changes now and just aren't used to your new body yet. Exercise won't change your size or color. So you're just going to have to get used to your body and learn to love it!
6.by pixxie123l on July 6, 2009 at 5:28 PM
Hello, I was just going to ask if its normal if infront, I dont want to be clueless here but im not sure where my vagina is. Theres like this outy thing that hangs and when i walk it moves and It REALLY annoys me and I dont again want to be MORE clueless but can it affect the future like the pregnancy or anything like that?
Please respond It would help alot :) Thank you
RESPONSE::::::::The female body can be kind of confusing with all the hair and folds of skin. But we have three holes down there. The first one is where pee comes out. The second is the vagina. The third is where poop comes out.
As for the thing that hangs, it's tough to say what it is without looking at you. You could have a large clitoris or large labia. The size of the clitoris and labia can vary a lot from one woman to the next, so it's ok for them to be on the larger side.
But seeing a doctor wouldn't be a bad idea. Since the doctor could actually look at your body, he or she would be able to tell you for sure what it is and answer any questions that you may have.
0 by pixxie123l on July 7, 2009 at 3:13 PM
Okay, thank you very much for your reply, and I looked up internet, because i wasent certain of it. but it says its a labia and again thanks :)
0 by pixxie123l on July 7, 2009 at 5:07 PM
1 more thing, Is it going to affect anything if I have a labia?
0 by Sanssouci on July 7, 2009 at 7:47 PM
No, "labia" just means the vaginal lips. All women have them.
0 by pixxie123l on July 7, 2009 at 8:32 PM
Okay, thank you
7.by xkeepitgreene on July 11, 2009 at 9:25 PM
I am 17 & just lost my virginity to my boyfriend a few months ago. It bled, a lot, so i know he broke my hymen. Then we had sex a second time-- no bleeding. The third (and last) time there was blood everywhere, dripping nonstop. How many times after loosing your virginity should you bleed during sex?
Also, my boyfriend fingers me a few times a week. The past few times he's fingered me, I've bled. I know it's not my period. He said he felt "strings" up in my vagina, but that he broke them. Today, my boyfriend fingered me again for the first time in seven days (we waited because we thought the bleeding wouldn't happen if we gave my vagina time to heal) but it started to bleed again. He also said he felt more "strings". What is he feeling? And why does my vagina keep bleeding? I know it's not because i'm not wet enough, and he is the only person i've done anything sexual with, likewise for him, so no STDs, etc. Answers would be much appreciated! Merci :]
Strings!!!!!!!!!!!!!1?????????????????????
RESPONSE:::::::by Sanssouci on July 12, 2009 at 10:49 AM
There\'s no certain number of times you have to have sex in order to stop bleeding. Every woman is different. Some women never bleed during sex. Others might bleed the second time but not the first. Some might not bleed the first 100 times, but then might bleed when they go for 101!
The vaginal tissue is very delicate. It can tear if it is too dry, if our partner is too rough with us, if our partner has sharp fingernails, etc. And even a tiny cut down there can lead to a lot of blood. You can try a water-based lubricant and see if it helps because a lot of women think they\'re wet enough until they try a store bought lubricant. Then they realize they could have been wetter!
But I have no idea what strings he\'s feeling. I\'ve never experienced that in my own vagina, and my partners have never mentioned it either. So given that along with the fact that the strings break and cause you to bleed a lot, I\'d recommend seeing an ob-gyn about it.
8.by unknown7 on August 24, 2009 at 6:02 PM
this is akward for me to say all this but... my boyfriend and I were having sex and he used four fingers to finger me and it hurt! After that I went to the bathroom and I was bleeding! Now it hurts to sit, bend, and sometimes walk. Should I go to a doctor or what? this happend today and I have had sex before
by Sanssouci on September 4, 2009 at 9:58 PM
It's possible that he tore you with his fingernail. That happens a lot because the vaginal tissues are so delicate. It should heal on its own, but scrapes do leave you vulnerable to infection, so see an ob-gyn if you notice any problems.
Lesson learnt...FINGERNAILS ON DDUES ARE YOUR ENEMIES
9.by Rika_B on October 25, 2009 at 12:03 PM
Hey Im a virgin. I was wondering if it is weird for my vagina to be itchy but it only goes on for 3 days (I think its just cause I didn't shower for a week but I still want to make sure), I do shave but I have been doing it for awhile and I sometimes get itchy when my hair grows back too.
READ THE PART WHERE SHE DID NOT SHOWER FOR A WEEK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
RESPONSE>>>>>by Sanssouci on October 26, 2009 at 3:06 PM
Shaving and skipping showers certainly can make you itchy. It's best to wash your vulva every day with water and a mild soap. A lot of women shave, but it's actually not recommended. In addition to causing itching and irritation, it can increase your chance of getting an infection down there. So your best bet would be to wash properly and stop shaving. If you still have itching even after that, you should go to the ob-gyn just to make sure you don't have an infection.
va-jay-jay
Numerically updated
My work life basically means my blogging life is basically extinct. So much has happened
1.i did so many rounds of interviews and in December i get to start as an ASSOCIATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!can you believe that....i did not look for this job...am still bawled over...but till i see the contract terms let me relax
2.i learnt what office politics is all about. i Think its shame when a whole senior manager gets competitive with an intern..like dude what wrong with you...so you started at a a lower rank and did not rise as fast...does that give you the right to try and sabotage my career.what a prat!!!!!!!1
3.I also realized not many people will be very amused with my career advancement..but tough luck..id id not sleep my way to it..i did not lie my way to it..i did not pretend to be what i was not..in fact i was totally myself..Thank you Lord.
4. I really appreciate my friends who are not sorority types who feel every single second we have to be together...i had to encounter such a person to really fully appreciate you guys...THANK YOU!!!!!!!i wish that person would just stop crowding me!!!!!! you are an awesome person but men you are really crowding me..i am at the resentment stage soon it will be the hate stage!1
5.I have to move out by June next year..i just need two flat mates who don't mind living in a furnished apartment and sharing rent...and am not living with guys,...females only.
6.i discovered i like on of my very good pals...and i like HIM more than a pal...lets just say after today i will know for sure....what up.
7.I discovered lame book and boy did i not die of laughter while equally gaped in shock at what some people post on face book. LAME BOOK is my new drug...
8.Sauti sol totally rocked!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!waaaaaaaaah that group is off the charts....while at the concert some guy proposed to the girlfriend...i am convinced the guy was drunk!! it just reinforced the truth that i HATE PUBLIC PROCLAMATIONS.I think they are insincere and its blackmail. IT IS BETWEEN THE TWO of us!! If i were the girl i would have crept outside to leave him to look like the eeejit that he is!!!!!!!!!1but she seemed impressed so i guess he read her right.
9. Some twat is still stalking me!!!!!! i am fully convinced the guy is clinically insane!!!!!!On th same note whether related i discovered some people actually eat the placenta after giving birth....some even fry it....some human beings should be shipped off to neptune
10. THis is not a proper blog post but i feel better all the same for posting s
NEVER YOURS
I keep meaning to blog about my party and all the drama fun and insanity that went down...but as ever i don't get the time even now i cant say i will.
I can definitely say i had mad fun like nothing and i am glad i threw that party and most people who came had crazy fun. The only downside was i acquired some stalker...ok fine a guy i know but who decided he was being possessive..The song that comes to mind is one by Tracy Chapman
Say I have known some
Less than I should
Say I have known some
Too well for my own good
Say I´m a saint of mercy
Say I´m a whore
I´ve been a lot of things
But never yours
I wear my mama´s dress
Her finest clothes
Daddy showed me outside
To meet you on the front porch
I laugh at all your jokes
But you look bored
I´ve been a lot of things but never yours
You never cross my mind
You can be sure
You´ll never catch my eye
Waiting for you watching the door
I let you hold me
Dry lip kiss me on the dance hall floor
I´ve been a lot of things
But never yours
Never yours
Never yours
Never yours
Never yours
Never yours
Never yours
Never yours
Never yours
So you say you won
It was a bet
A game of pool or cards
I repay my family´s debt
I let you lie beside me
With no remorse
I´ve been a lot of things
But never yours
Say I have known some
Less than I should
Say I have known some
Too well for my own good
Say I´m a saint of mercy
Say I´m a whore
I´ve been a lot of things
But never yours
Dude will get his own post whether it will take me one year to get time to blog about him...i will blog about him nonetheless..the biggest lesson i learnt was that this casual relationships or arrangements are not for me....this time i was lucky i was the party that was so detached and wanting to get away..what if it were the other way around...i shudder to think
I also learnt that i can still finish with a guy in a manner that conveys the fact that i want out and i am not changing my mind yet still leave the person with their dignity intact...this particular guy really pushed it..but i can honestly say i was fair....
A lesson that i have always known but have thought of doubting was my cynicism when it comes to men..especially men who feel that they are charmers....if your first reaction is not to trust them..do not trust them even if they are on the verge of tears...even they cry.....i for one do not know what to do with a man in tears....but never believe them....i almost believed one..only to learn how he was playing a game....there i was wasting my pity on a scoundrel....
A good thing happened a few weeks back...i realized that some spell that some dude had me under for years was broken...and what relief....
The downside is am now getting under the spell of another friend whom i have gotten close to.....and i thought turning 25 meant less drama...
I had no reason for this post but i miss blogging...this wasn't for people who follow this blog..but rather for me....
Mostly its to get away from the irony of my life...i am never yours you psycho....no matter how long you pursue me..never yours.yet my dear friend,you has done nothing to pursue me, i want to be yours yet you cant understand that...am out
Gorgeous 25
Tomorrow is my birthday and its such a big thing i have to blog about it even if all i am writing is one line.MY PARTY IS ALL PLANNED OUT....i may have gone over board in inviting several guys who have vested interest in me...but what the heck.....its gonna be fun....will blog more after the actual event.
i can honestly say that i have done what i wanted to do before i turned 25 and i have no regrets.If only i could dump some guy before then...i would be much happier,...but we cant have everything..can we....?
Big brother is so interesting.. imagine...on the same month as my birthday...i have job....maybe not permanent but i am glad that after all that waiting i have something...
IN a paradox i have learned how really alone i am....yet how really loved and surrounded i really am.Alone in that the consequences of my decisions are mine to bear...that no matter how much others may want to bear them for me..they cant.....i have learnt that just when you feel most alone..the real friends show you how much they are a treasure....i have learnt that the stuff i have learnt about men...well its not all rubbish...yet there is still lots to learn...that despite my paranoia when it comes to them..i have managed to be really close friends with some of them,.,,,i have learnt stuff about me..that just amaze me..i am proud of the woman i am...just as i am sorry but not ashamed of some of the not so positive stuff i have done.....more than anything i am glad that i am NEVER PART OF THE CROWD......it has cost me to be true to myself even when i am wrong..but the rewards have been worth it...Most of all I KNOW THAT I know thats i know THAT God LOVES ME...I HAVE TESTED HIM AT THE MOST THIS YEAR AND PUSHED AS MANY BOUNDARIES AS I COULD...yet HE IS STILL FAITHFUL..no one will ever love ME LIKE THAT.....
OK THIS POST HAS GOTTEN LONGER THAN I EXPECTED bUT I AM GLAD I AM TURNING 25...UNLIKE SOME OF MY PEERS WHO FEEL BAD ABOUT IT AND OLD..I FEEL THAT THE BEST IS HERE TO BE SAVOURED...AND EVEN BETTER IS ON THE WAY...LIKER MY APARTMENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!BY THE WAY I WANT A STUFFED ANIMAL....CANT REMEMBER THE LAST TIME ANYONE BOUGHT ME ONE..HIHIHIHI...For any typos.....a thousand apologies
Cross Roads
I feel so awful that i have been awfully busy that i cannot even manage to blog. This is the first time in a month when i have managed to visit my blog.i am truly in a rat race. i leave work so late and so exhausted that sleep is the only thing my body can manage.
I have alot to blog about yet the time or energy is very scarce so i will post lyrics to a song by Tracy Chapman.THere is a week i listened to her every single day.i know insane. THE SONG IS CALLED CROSS ROADS. On 23rd of this month i turn 25 and tahts big yet there are so many things to decide and so many paths to follow with so many different consequences,
All you folks think you own my life
But you never made any sacrifice
Demons they are on my trail
I'm standing at the crossroads of the hell
I look to the left I look to the right
There're hands that grab me on every side
All you folks think I got my price
At which I'll sell all that is mine
You think money rules when all else fails
Go sell your soul and keep your shell
I'm trying to protect what I keep inside
All the reasons why I live my life
Some say the devil be a mystical thing
I say the devil he a walking man
He a fool he a liar conjurer and a thief
He try to tell you what you want
Try to tell you what you need
Standing at the point
The road it cross you down
What is at your back
Which way do you turn
Who will come to find you first
Your devils or your gods
All you folks think you run my life
Say I should be willing to compromise
I say all you demons go back to hell
I'll save my soul save myself
work
so sorry i keep meaning to blog but i get from work so bone tired that sleep is the only thought that can survive ...i got a new job which is a very good opportunity..something to do with global finance...sadly it also meant the end of my reign in unlimited cyberspace..so even its after work hours that i can spare some minutes to do this...
i am happy to have the job but being the new kid on the block is SOOOOOOOOOO NOTTTTTTTTT funny...i haven't felt like this in years...so unsure of myself or my place...i love the facilities..BUT I DON'T LIKE THE FLOOR WHERE I AM WORKING...I SIT NEXT TO THE MAIN MANAGERS...MEANING I HAVE TO BE ON MY BEST BEHAVIOR AT ALL TIMES..I PREFERRED THE UPPER FLOUR,...even the coffee was better there...anyhooooooooooooooo there is nothing much happening in my life other than waking up at 5am in the morning and sleeping at 10pm or 11pm...thew weekends have been good with nonstop partying....my goal was to at least make out with some hot dude...i tell you never make plans..coz Murphy's laws will conspire to ensure all your plans fail....sigh...but all in all i had a fab weekend which when i have time and strength i will blog about...this post was so totally without direction...more like an update.if there are any typos...bear with me..am bone tired
